Divorce-what happens?

[scott-sts]

I'm blissfully married so I can't fathom what it's like to get divorced but I know many people who are.  The old stat is 50% of marriages end up in divorce.  I don't know if that's true but it's probably close.

I've been wondering how you go from proclaiming undying love for each other, "FOREVER," and entering in to a legal contract while witnessed by everyone you know in the world, to 100% pure hatred.
How does this happen??
"I do" to "I hate you".
How many times in life do you actually commit to anything until you die?  DEATH.  The end.  Yet in half the cases, we don't follow through with this commitment?
Why?


 

[UFO]

 

[Bjorn Toulouse]

 

 

[Shhted]

I, too, am blissfully happy.  But I'm not about to rest on my laurels and say it'll be that way forever.  My relationship with my wife is a living thing that requires care and feeding from the both of us.  Once one or the other gives up, it's most likely doomed.

I can't and won't judge anyone who gets to the point of divorce simply because it's not my place.  Some folks give up to easy, others stay in marriages that were dead to begin with.  I say ride your own ride.  

[R.Markus]

I'm blissfully married

I, too, am blissfully happy.

Yes, but are your wives?

[Shhted]

Yes, but are your wives?

Ask her.

[Against The Wind]

And sometimes you don't even know when it happened.

[M.Brane]

 You'll have to as my ex. She's the one who decided to move away with my kid, ruin my credit, and charge me $500 a month for the privilege.

[chimera]

 You'll have to as my ex. She's the one who decided to move away with my kid, ruin my credit, and charge me $500 a month for the privilege.

Pfft you got off cheap chief.  Count yourself lucky.

On topic: People change.  I like the pic above of the fork in the road.  Sums it up nicely too.

[Wockman]

 You'll have to as my ex. She's the one who decided to move away with my kid, ruin my credit, and charge me $500 a month for the privilege.

Me too !  Except I pay $624 a month...

I for one believe the idea of marriage is antiquated...

[scott-sts]

Me too !  Except I pay $624 a month...

I for one believe the idea of marriage is antiquated...

It does seem to defy logic, huh?

[Mr. Whippy]

I'll have to ask my wife....

[goldylocks303]

Half of all marriages end in divorce, the other half end in death.  

Enjoying the bachelors life a little longer,
eD

[M.Brane]

Pfft you got off cheap chief.  Count yourself lucky.

 Well considering the fact that we didn't own a home I'd say no, but yeah it could have been worse. I regret not severing all financial ties when we split up, but then I would probably owe attorney's fees.

 We still get along pretty well despite her poor decisions since I choose not to be an asshole. I know she didn't ruin me on purpose, but it still hurts.

 She has since re-married to an actual asshole so there is justice in this world.

[dm_gsxr]

In our case it wasn't hatred. More like that fork in the road and no interest in merging again.

And you guys got off cheap. She got the house, a new car, _and_ $1,200 a month. And that was 10 years ago. And then she abandoned the house before we could get it transferred into her name so I had to move in and spend 401k money to pay the late mortgage and two months of past due utility bills.

Carl

[chimera]

 Well considering the fact that we didn't own a home I'd say no, but yeah it could have been worse. I regret not severing all financial ties when we split up, but then I would probably owe attorney's fees.

 We still get along pretty well despite her poor decisions since I choose not to be an asshole. I know she didn't ruin me on purpose, but it still hurts.

 She has since re-married to an actual asshole so there is justice in this world.

Upon reading my own quote I came off sounding douchebaggy. Sorry.  Each persons pain is unique and it sounds like yours has been soothed by some good cosmic karma.  

[Powder Addict]

I've been wondering how you go from proclaiming undying love for each other, "FOREVER," and entering in to a legal contract while witnessed by everyone you know in the world, to 100% pure hatred.
How does this happen??
"I do" to "I hate you".
 

When she screws one of your friends.

It worked out ok, I traded her in for a younger, sweeter, prettier model, that requires much less maintanence    

[Squareman357]

I still am, for how long I don't know.  What I sense happening is that while we were much more "aligned" 20 years ago, we're not so much now, and the older we get the further apart that gulf gets.  Once it's too wide to bridge anymore, I think we'll probably be heading for divorce.  People change, things you once dealt with without struggle now cause major arguments.  Things that you never really "saw" before, become more and more visible to you.  You grow apart instead of growing together.  

[cultureslayer]

I for one believe the idea of marriage is antiquated...

Please convince my boyfriend this is true :P

[scott-sts]

I still am, for how long I don't know.  What I sense happening is that while we were much more "aligned" 20 years ago, we're not so much now, and the older we get the further apart that gulf gets.  Once it's too wide to bridge anymore, I think we'll probably be heading for divorce.  People change, things you once dealt with without struggle now cause major arguments.  Things that you never really "saw" before, become more and more visible to you.  You grow apart instead of growing together.  

I hear that alot; people change.  I guess that means eventually the person you married becomes a completely different person.  It must be strange to look at this person and not reconize them anymore.