Would you quit motorcycles if.....

[sammyseaman]

The "Suddenly, I am too old? WTF?" thread got me thinking about what I would give up for someone I loved. Me personally, I wouldn't give up a damn thing because the love of my life wants me too. One exeption would be if it was something destructive: Excessive drinking, drugs abuse, WOW, etc... Non of which I do by the way.
What say you?

[chornbe]

It's easy to say "no", of course, but I went with the "damn good reason" option.

I'm open to discussion on anything. And I'm usually pretty good as being both sides of any discussion, no matter how hard I may dig into my given position on it.

In the case of motorcycling in particular, it was something that was a part of who I am before I even met her. She knew I rode when she got involved with me and she knew I rode when she married me. Frankly, if that's going to be what kills us, it's her issue, not mine.

[Leanintree]

Sounds like you would have done well if you married my wife. That's my vote as well, for pretty much the same reasons. Part of being a partnership is taking that bullet sometimes even if you'd rather not, but if there's a REAL good reason, yes. I'm not one dimensional, and she's worth taking the occasional lumps.

[falconati]

Option 1.  Any sort of substance abuse would get stopped, but nobody who understood me would ask me to stop riding, and certainly wouldn't make it be an ultimatum.

[Twistedpinion]

In the case of motorcycling in particular, it was something that was a part of who I am before I even met her. She knew I rode when she got involved with me and she knew I rode when she married me. Frankly, if that's going to be what kills us, it's her issue, not mine.

^This.  We had that discussion when the relationship turned serious.  I had already been down that road with others, wanted it known up front that there were a few things I was unwilling to change.

[Scratch33]

This thread is going straight to pie.

[scottzilla]

I masturbate too much and so far, nobody has tried to stop me.

[Leanintree]

I masturbate too much and so far, nobody has tried to stop me.

They were afraid they'd stick. Just sayin'.

[Magnarider]

I chose the damn good reason option.  The way a look at it, marriage is about compromise, give and take.  So, when issues come up you need to be flexible and sometimes that means taking one for the team.  However, motorcycling is on my list of untouchable things that I will not give up.  This was something that I also took part in before they met me, so I can't be expected to give up something that's that important to me.  I guess coming from a single guy's perspective, this will just be a part of my screening process.  I'm just going to be crystal clear that there are some things that I can let go, and some that I can't.  This one I can't.  I'd be willing to limit my riding depending on family issues (ie. kids, multiple family gatherings coming up, etc.) but under no circumstances will I give it up.  

[Ti954]

What kind of pie?

[Open Sore]

would not give up m/c's for anyone.  deal w/ it or you're gone.  if it's something that deep down i know is not good for me, or my family, or friends etc (like drugs, violence, theft, adultry, alcohol, aggressive driving, etc.) i would try and let them help me overcome my issues.  if it's something they want me stop because they think it doesn't fit the mold of how they were programmed growing up, piss off.

[Ti954]

Sounds like you would have done well if you married my wife.

Oooohhhhh I just can't......too easy.  

[Leanintree]

Hey, she earned a proposal from him over in the now defunct 'Too Old' thread. just wanted him know he might have had a chance with the attitude he listed above.

Moot of course, since I'm a totally studly hunk-a-hunk-a burnin' love, and she's fairly complacent. Whoops... did I say that?
LT

[shugga]

My wife had an ex-boyfriend many years ago that died on a bike.  She says "I'm done worrying about you" and the bikes go.

[chornbe]

Hey, she earned a proposal from him over in the now defunct 'Too Old' thread. just wanted him know he might have had a chance with the attitude he listed above.

Moot of course, since I'm a totally studly hunk-a-hunk-a burnin' love, and she's fairly complacent. Whoops... did I say that?
LT

Yeah, then you yelled at me.  

Think I'm talking to YOU any more?  

 

[KenH]

If I ever hook up again, it will be with a woman who rides. Non-issue.

[wibornz]

Well to give up mororcyling would require a significant sacrafice of flesh on her part.  I was meant to ride, and I will ride.  If not the bike, then more of her.  Maybe 15000 miles of riding her a year and she will want you to go get a bike again to give her a break.

[garry]

Give up owning a bike? That would take REALLY damn good reason.

Cutting back on weekend day rides or trips for a damn good reason? That's a lot more plausible.

[zer0netgain]

I voted "other" but now I realize I misread the question.

I thought you were asking, "Would you quit riding motorcycles FOR another love of yours if the love of your life said, 'It's me or the bike'?"

 

[ConPilot1]

went with this.
I'd give up something I loved if he/she had a damn good reason for me to give it up


but damn straight, you better come up with something really, really good, and there ain't no guarantees on this.....

[cjgauthier]

     Not a problem here, we agreed I could have a bike many years ago. A lady who would decide in the middle of your biking enjoyment that it had to go for reasons clear only to her might present a problem.

[Kaneto]

I answered Pie, because it's Pie.  Really it's a moot question.

Simple fact is my wife would never ask me to give up riding, or anything else I am passionate about.  She loves me for who I am and accepts that my interests are part of what makes me who I am.  Some may say "well if you really love her then you'd give up anything for her".  Yes, I would give up anything for her sake, but I would not give up anything simply because she asked me to.  I did not fall in love with a woman who would ask me to do that sort of thing.  If she ever did, then it would probably be a wake-up call to me that she is not the same woman I fell in love with.

Of course, the issue is made even more moot by the fact that she encourages my riding, and as soon as we have the money I'm going to have to buy her a Ducati.  It's cheaper than the Bugatti she wants.  

[bubba zanetti]

A pure hypothetical in my life as I have much support and encouragement for my riding and bikes from my family.

My personality is one that does not respond well to ultimatums ... but supposing that my riding or say another riding injury pushed my wife to the point of her saying " I can no longer support what you are doing and if you continue, I may have to question my ability to stay in this relationship with you."

I would do my best to accommodate her needs and stop riding. We have a great partnership, a great kid and such a good life as a result of that partnership inclusive of compromise and adjusted expectations on both our parts. Motorcycles are a big part of my life ... but only a part.

[rgbeard]

Pumpkin Pie.

[stefrrr]

Really stopping to think about this, I had to go with "other." The bottom line is, I know my SO and our relationship enough that he wouldn't actually suggest I give up something without a damn good reason. So I would.

After a whole lot of arguing and yelling.  

[cultureslayer]

If I have let the boyfriend continue with his scuba nonsense then there is NO WAY he can ever get in the way of any hobby I want to pursue.  

[2RR2NV]

i picked other cause my mind could be changed at any time for whatever reason since i'm a realist when it comes to money. if having no bike means we can afford a better life for the kids, then i may give it up for awhile. but FOREVER?  awww Hell NO. right now, we just bought a house (hopefully close on it in a few hours), have one baby girl with another showing up in less than a month. i don't think we'll have any real money issues, but ya never know. babies can have all kinds of medical issues (as most of you know) and family comes first. healthy kids means healthy family means happy family especially HAPPY Mommy. But for my wife to just come out of the blue and tell me i need to sell the bike, she better have the MOTHER of all reasons. i've sold bikes before but they were all decided by me. and usually to go buy another bike. which makes my wife worried since she thinks it's time once again for me to sell and buy again. dang woman knows me too well since i am putting the FJR (when i actually get it from Transport) up for sale. the main reason...  lo n behold..

to buy a 6th gen VFR!!

used... mind you, so i can learn how to do some customizing.  


also, the VFR was her first bike to ride on (way before we even started dating) and we absolutely loved it!

[LoVel]

It's pie for me.  My wife rides and bakes on a regular basis.  

If the love of your life asked you to give up riding you probably need to reconsider who the love of your life is.  She certainly wouldn't be some selfish thoughtless bitch.

[blackbeltrider]

It would be expensive, and I'd miss her a lot, but at the stage I am at in my life and with the sacrifices I have made over the years for family, there isn't any way I am going to give up one of the very few things I pursue for the sake of the complete, uncomplicated, mind-clearing mental freedom it brings.

I've earned that.

   

[stromgal]

No loved one = no problem.

[ice-cycle]

Damned good reason option.

Hard to sleep comfortably with a bike at night.  Too many hard edges.  

[Justin]

I made it very clear to my fiance that motorcycles will always be part of my life, and I would never give it up.

[jesse0192]

The correct answer was "pie," everyone.  "pie."

[maddjack]

Warm Apple pie  

[black hills]

My wife undertands why I ride (her passion is horses) Neither of us would ask the other to quit riding, no matter how many trips we make to the ER.

Although, after one of my dirtbiking buddies crashed on our usual thurday night ride and broke his neck (paralyzed from the neck down) There was some discussion about "maybe you guys are getting to old for that?" We agreed that I wouldn't ride without a Leatt brace and all was fine again. But, I think she worries about me more now than she did before.

[YamadogR1]

Fortunately, I do not have this problem with motorcyces. My wife rides her own and is always looking at them. I tell her we can't buy anymore as I won't have any room to work on the ones we have.

[county]

There is a flip side to this question......which is whether the s/o demanding you give up riding would give up something that you demanded he/she quit?

In other words this isn't a realistic question because the answer depends on the nature of the relationship....some are such that quitting riding must be considered....others, well....  

 

[mugwump58]

Sorry, no not really. I've been down this road before. I you don't understand me well enough to know what the answer is it's a mistake that we've gotten this far.

ps I'm gonna be dead in 20 years. Compromise is getting real hard.

[coho]

Not for love nor money would I give up motorbikes or pie.

[MDHCO]

While I voted pie, Thanksgiving is next week, perhaps the question should have been given more serious consideration.  

Had my loving wife taken that kind of stand, I'm not sure I'd have still been riding.  It would have been a serious concession, but my family means everything to me.   Had she been the type to demand her way or the highway, I doubt we'd have married in the first place.    

Make mine Pumpkin please.  

[Shrike]

Ok.. I went with pie because... It is a moot point.

 My wife rides nearly as much as I do. (she also teaches a motorcycle training course) She sure as h#$# spends more on stuff for her bike than I do. I guess she figures I paid almost twice what she did to get the bike she is trying to make up for it with accessories. 

[Frankienuckles]

I would have to be convinced, not coerced or guilted that quitting riding was "right" thing to do. Then I would decide for myself. After all I could quit riding any time I wanted to, I just haven't wanted to since I started riding.

[black hills]

Ok.. I went with pie because... It is a moot point.

 My wife rides nearly as much as I do. (she also teaches a motorcycle training course) She sure as h#$# spends more on stuff for her bike than I do. I guess she figures I paid almost twice what she did to get the bike she is trying to make up for it with accessories. 

Ah, it is not as simply as it seems... Imagine she has an accident, no serious injuries just a few hours in ER and a cast or two. Suddenly she decides it's not worth the risk, she giving it up. Soon she expects you to do the same. Far from being a moot point

[cultureslayer]

Ah, it is not as simply as it seems... Imagine she has an accident, no serious injuries just a few hours in ER and a cast or two. Suddenly she decides it's not worth the risk, she giving it up. Soon she expects you to do the same. Far from being a moot point

I don't care what the SO does, he just has to get long term care insurance if we get married because I'm not going to change his diapers and wipe up drool.    Some people don't force their ideas on their SO.  I can barely enjoy snorkeling with lots of pretty fish to distract me and the boyfriend wants to buy a bunch of scuba shit.  I'm only annoyed because he claims to be broke and makes me buy him food.  

[Shrike]

Ah, it is not as simply as it seems... Imagine she has an accident, no serious injuries just a few hours in ER and a cast or two. Suddenly she decides it's not worth the risk, she giving it up. Soon she expects you to do the same. Far from being a moot point

Actually... been there already. Plus 2 years ago I got nailed by a pickup truck. Off work for 9 months... smashed up pretty good.

Yea we were both wary for a while but bikes are in our blood.

[black hills]

Actually... been there already. Plus 2 years ago I got nailed by a pickup truck. Off work for 9 months... smashed up pretty good.

Yea we were both wary for a while but bikes are in our blood.

   Sounds like it is a moot point then  Congrats

[chornbe]

   Sounds like it is a moot point then  Congrats

No, no, NO! This is ST.N! You're supposed to tell him how wrong he is about his situation. You're supposed to explain that even though you're not him, don't ride what he rides, aren't married to his wife and you don't live the same kind of life he does, you STILL know better than he on this topic.

Come on man... seriously. Sheesh.

[McHack]

I went with 'OTHER'...

Its impossible to have a canned answer for such a dire question.   If the love of my life,  said "Its me or the bike"... I'd find myself wondering how in hell did I allow myself to get into such a predicament?   Love is love,  but the Love of your life all not just about love.  Its also about finding the right match for you.   My match would never ask this of me,  hence I choose wisely!  

If someone's "love of their life" would have the gall to ask such a thing,  I cant imagine calling that a good match.

[black hills]

No, no, NO! This is ST.N! You're supposed to tell him how wrong he is about his situation. You're supposed to explain that even though you're not him, don't ride what he rides, aren't married to his wife and you don't live the same kind of life he does, you STILL know better than he on this topic.

Come on man... seriously. Sheesh.

Doh......I'll try to do better in the future

[meanstrk]

Over the years we have dealt with me and my son wrecking, resulting in life altering injuries. I have told my wife that I would quit if she wanted me to, but that it would probably cost her a high end sports car. She knows I would probably be miserable if I did and has never asked me to stop.

[sammyseaman]

No, no, NO! This is ST.N! You're supposed to tell him how wrong he is about his situation. You're supposed to explain that even though you're not him, don't ride what he rides, aren't married to his wife and you don't live the same kind of life he does, you STILL know better than he on this topic.

Come on man... seriously. Sheesh.

 

[stew71]

Thankfully, she'd probably never ask me to give it up. She knows I'd be one miserable cranky bastard. I've already given up the flying, but that had more to do with the truckloads of money it cost me every month to stay current and proficient. That wasn't an issue when I was single. But now married and starting a family..? Well, that was one of those compromises we sometimes make in life.

Besides, every time I burn through a tank of gas in the truck on my commute to work, she asks why I wasn't riding that day.

[chornbe]

Can I change my vote to "Not just no, but FUCK NO" now?

[valvestem]

Ehhhh
 I'm with Blackbelt Rider. Feel the same way. At least at the stage of life I'm at.

  Valvestem

                     

[nnjhawk02]

I used to love her, but had to kill her...

Don't let the door hit ur fat ass on the way out, crack whore...

I got problems - go pick on someone else

[chornbe]

Don't let the door hit ur fat ass on the way out, crack whore...

But crack whores are usually skankily skinny. How many actually have fat asses?

You're confusing me.

[Giaka]

What if you were the only surviving parent of your children (under 18) and your death would leave them orphans?

[Nodaclu]

I'd be perfectly willing to give it up for the love of my life. After all, she would come first, my love of motorcycles would come second.

Of course, this being fair and equal and all, I would fully expect her to be just as willing to give up the one thing she loved more than anything else in the world besides me.

You know, just to keep things balanced.  

[Nodaclu]

Hard to sleep comfortably with a bike at night.  Too many hard edges.  

You've obviously never spent any quality time with the soft, supple curves of a Honda Pacific Coast.  

Crap.....I **REALLY** need to find a job. Way to much free time on my hands right now.  

[cultureslayer]

What if you were the only surviving parent of your children (under 18) and your death would leave them orphans?

Meh, as long as you have quality godparents in the will they might be better off.  

[coho]

I'd be perfectly willing to give it up for the love of my life. After all, she would come first, my love of motorcycles would come second.

There is no woman who could be "the love of my life" if she didn't love me for me.  "Me" is already a motorcyclist, it's not just something I do, it's part of who and what I am.

I don't really see it as something to be "given up" in the name of love.  What if she wanted you to give up all forms of mechanical transportation out of fear for your safety?  Or modern medicine for religious reasons?  Or any of a million other things that are commonplace to most and anathema to a few.  Would you, could you give up telecommunications or indoor plumbing for love?  Is it really love if you have to change yourself into someone else to get it?

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for personal growth and such.  But I suspect that we all have stuff in way more need of changing than what we drive.

[black hills]

Meh, as long as you have quality godparents in the will they might be better off.  

 

[skater69]

I'd give up riding only if I had an accident or very close call that in my mind was simply unavoidable.....and riding was no longer worth the risk.  But knock on the wood, those things havent happened and hopefully never will.

[scrmpyjack]

When I first met my wife, I told her like I had told every other woman I dated.  
The bike is a part of who I am.  You do not have to ride with me or like it.
But is part of the package.

Now that I am married,  some of the wifes friends suggested that maybe she should tell me to give up ridding.
The wife responds to the comments with,  I will be missed .  And her friends shut up

[greywolf]

If they Love you , they accept you for who you are and not try to change you.

I've made it very clear to the women in my life , including wives, that Motorcycles were a part of my life before they came along , and will be till I can no longer ride. Accept it or move on .

[Mac]

I masturbate too much and so far, nobody has tried to stop me.

I saw this on a bathroom wall so it must be true.

[OrangeSVS]

I would give up motorcycling if she asked me to.

Skydiving, BASE jumping, flying general aviation aircraft, hanggliding, autoracing, Thai hookers, or BJJ training could fill the void nicely.

But I did spend a few years working on a book about safe riding. I've clearly put some thought into being safe on two wheels. But, hey! You want me to start from scratch and earn some new lumps in something I'm totally unfamiliar with? That's fine by me! But ask me to become a loser couch potato, and you've found yourself the wrong guy...

In the interim, like Stromgal said... No S.O. = No Problem.

[jeepinbanditrider]

I'd promptly show her the nearest exit.  Rather they like to believe it or not they are easily replaced by some other person.

[tdeboeser]

What say you?

Pie.

[black hills]

there are many fishes in the sea.

[STJoe]

1. My life insurance is more than adequate, and paid up.
2. Sadly I've been riding for a very long time, but still enjoy it.
3. My wife, who I've been married to, also for a long period of time, is aware of 1 & 2.
4. We've never been about ultimatums, which is why we've been happily married for a very long time.

So I had to cast my vote for pie.

[stevent]

Not a chance, I've been on and around motorcycles my entire life and have no intentions of quitting riding until I can no longer phsically control a bike. Anyone involved with me needs to keep that in mind. Simple as that.

 

[dm_gsxr]

No loved one = no problem.

Aw, we love you. And we'd never put an ultimatum out like this so no worries.



Carl

[stromgal]

Aw, we love you. And we'd never put an ultimatum out like this so no worries.



Carl

Oh, good grief. 

 

I DO make good pies though.  

[bomber]

Oh, good grief. 

 

I DO make good pies though.  

Yet another reason for growing fondness . . . . keep riding, Beej!

Oh, and making pies. Rhubarb, if requests are being taken.

[coho]

Pie!  

[notarian]

I'm afraid she'd have to be shown the door. First, it would mean selling 4 motorcycles (5 next year with a dual sport purchase) and second it would mean dropping my next up 7 year ambition of doing a sub 1:40 lap at Laguna at 70 yrs.

(ps) Means finding 15 seconds!  

[GRN]

Mine would never suggest unless there were some pretty objective concerns... in which case I would listen closely and consider what she had to say. Doesn't mean I would agree, right or wrong, but it would certainly get my attention.

[KeithB]

In my case, this was not just an academic question.

I rode in high school and my first wife knew it and said nothing.  As soon as we got married, motorcycles were non-gratis.  I found this out when we were in the car going home after looking at a new bike.  She through a royal fit, even kicking in the dash of my AMC Gremlin (yeah, I had one).

I got a used Kaw Z1 a couple of years later while stationed in Okinawa without asking first.  From that point on, I never let the garage be bike-less.

The 1st wife is now an ex, and my 2nd wife is more understanding, but even with her, there are still some major motorcycle-related fights.

[DL98VFR]

NEVER gonna stop riding .  I'm one of the lucky ones, my wife and daughters understand; they may not always cheer when I get into my gear but they know how much I love to ride .  Sheesh, what's better than an open road with twisty curves and no cagers in front of you?!  

[KeithB]

My wife has realized she only sees the best of me when we're on bike trips, but she seems to forget after a while....

[GRN]

My wife has realized she only sees the best of me when we're on bike trips, but she seems to forget after a while....

How good of an excuse do you need to take MORE trips?  

[black hills]

My wife's usual comment when I get crabby or annoying is: " I think you need to go for a ride, come back when you are in a better mood"  I always do as she says

[dm_gsxr]

My wife's usual comment when I get crabby or annoying is: " I think you need to go for a ride, come back when you are in a better mood"  I always do as she says

I get that too. Rita'll observe that it's been a while due to winter and snowstorms and she'll kick me out to go for a ride.

Carl

[danketchpel]

I'm a very open minded guy and willing to listen to both sides of an argument. But..... I do not condone giving up something you (or her) loves "just because", like I voted, it has to be a damn good reason.

This issue is something that came up in the last parts of my first marriage. I had given up riding dirtbikes for 7 years because of my living circumstances. When I got back into it I did it one day a weekend for a while because I really missed it, you know the big surge that happens when you are excited about an activity. She had a problem with that and well...... she's not around anymore. I don't ride that much anymore as I've worked it out of my system back to a "normal" level. If she'd been willing to see it through maybe things would be different today.

The only time I think a person should stop something if asked is if it's truly destructive to themselves or others such as substance abuse, gambling addictions, abusive behavior, that sort of thing. One lady I was dating asked me "would you give up your friends for me?" My answer was "WTF are you thinking?" She didn't last very long.

What is best is to try to get the significant other involved in the hobby or interest you love, or second best, get her/him involved in an interest of their own. There are pros & cons to each but the both of you sharing an interest is by far the best and can really bring you closer together. My second wife and I shared a love of personal watercraft and that really helped our marriage which lasted 13 years. At least it ended on good terms and we're still friends and business partners. My current girlfriend knows all my hobbies and interests and also shares an interest in many of them. That's where I'm starting from this time this time around.

[black hills]

My wife knows I would never give up my bikes for her, and I know she would never give up her horses for me. It works out just fine

[stewm_21]

I had to go with Pie.  It took 6 years of working the subject (with the help of friends) before I had "permission" to buy a bike again.  I had a bike for a few years well before we met / married and I know she is not always comfortable with me riding.  Really hit home when a close friend had a bad crash this summer.  Would I give it up, I don't know therefore "Pie".  I love the ride, the culture, the relaxation it gives me and I love my wife.  Tough decision, hope she never asks and I never give her a reason to.

[coho]

Short answer: No.

Long answer:  Hell no.

[MULLETHEAD774]

Been married....and divorced 3 times.  Never been bikeless.  Does that answer the question.

[tthompsr]

Been married for 28 years and always had a bike! I know I got a keeper!

[spd2918]

Roxanne told me if I bought another bike we were through.  My new wife Lisa loves to ride!



I ride when I choose and I will quit when I choose.  Any spouse that would make such a demand is not worth marriage.

[Redbandit14]

Pie. Preferably Apple.

I ride. If i get serious with someone they have to accept that or go away. Simple.

[Flyer]

Don't let rubber smoke drift in yer hair as I make my get-away.

[county]

Like many things in life, it all depends on the size of her tits....

[spd2918]

Like many things in life, it all depends on the size of her tits....

Finally a decent post from this guy.

[Playinthestreet]

Been married....and divorced 3 times.  Never been bikeless.  Does that answer the question.

I think the answer to "divorced three times" lies in your screen name.

[Elseanno]

Other...

I told her the bike was here before you, it will be here if/when you leave. There's lot's of things that are open to discussion, the bike ain't one.


Elseanno

[cb919er]

if someone truly loved you, they wouldn't ask you to give up something you truly love...

[Tango59]

I gave it up for the kids 91-07. The first wife is a ER nurse so it was a constant fight with her. When the last kid graduated high school the current wife said "Well,  go get a motorcycle". She doesn't ride, won't pillion, doesn't bitch when I take a ride and was a RRT in an ICU.

That doesn't mean she's not a pain in the ass tho and she's got big tits. (No Pics)

[cb919er]

No loved one = no problem.

I love you're helmet! I have the same one...

[birdrunner]

I get that too. Rita'll observe that it's been a while due to winter and snowstorms and she'll kick me out to go for a ride.

Carl

She just misses her boyfriend.  

[birdrunner]

I love you're helmet! I have the same one...

Snerk, ........ you have a girl's helmet .

[cb919er]

Snerk, ........ you have a girl's helmet .

it worked for Ben Spies...

[black hills]

14 rib factures didn't make me quit
Broken hand didn't make me quit
3 broken helmets (and the concussions that go with it) didn't make me quit
Torn ACL (and surgery to repair it) didn't make me quit
Even the fact that it turned a great friend into a quadriplegic didn't make me quit
So why in the hell would I quit because some girl told me too???
What kind of pussy does that?

[spd2918]

Maybe some training is in order.

[black hills]

LOL... All that was in training, the races always went well

[slvrsprint]

I checked "Other" since this would never happen.  

No one would become my wife with that outlook.  In fact, my wife suggests that I buy new bikes more often than I want to spend the money.  

We have a 10 day vacation planned in Florida next month and she bought only one plane ticket since I mentioned I was considering riding there from New York.  That turned into a month long trip for me while she flies back to work.  

I also love that she's not a passenger, she rides her own.  Her' Yamaha has over 30,000 miles on it.  Maybe it's time for her to have a new one.  

[motodoc43]

I gave up riding for a number of years for my last wife. Sadly I was widowed last year, and have since remarried to a lady who rides and has 2 bikes. If she told me to quit, i would have her admitted to a psych hospital!

[Computer Guy]

Although she hates the fact that I ride, I have not given her a reason good enough to ask to give up riding.  If she gave me that ultimatum now, I'd say goodbye.  She does things that I don't like, I do things that she doesn't like.  We give each other space and life is too short to be any other way.

[trippin]

Although she hates the fact that I ride, I have not given her a reason good enough to ask to give up riding.  If she gave me that ultimatum now, I'd say goodbye.  She does things that I don't like, I do things that she doesn't like.  We give each other space and life is too short to be any other way.

Amen, brother.

[MKorn]

Although she hates the fact that I ride, I have not given her a reason good enough to ask to give up riding.  If she gave me that ultimatum now, I'd say goodbye.  She does things that I don't like, I do things that she doesn't like.  We give each other space and life is too short to be any other way.

+2

[jhawk]

Would you quit riding motorcycles or another love of yours if the love of your life said "It's me or the bike"?

I had a hard time deciding between "other" and "pie"  

Because it's highly unlikely that "It's me or the bike" will ever come up in discussion. Considering, before we were married, my girl friend made the down payment on a bike I wanted after 37 years of marraige and a couple of dozen bikes.... there are 2 very nice bikes in the garage now.... I never catch any flak when I buy gear or accessories.... she said I can't ever sell the Thunderbird Sport....and I have standing "permission" to buy a R90S whenever I find one I like (but it has to be the gray-smoke, cannot be the yellow)... of course I had to get her a MX5 Miata in the bargain....    

[Flying W]

Women come and go but motorcycles are forever....Simple and to the point.

[bikerfish1100]

love me, love my bikes. or at least tolerate them. but never think that you're going to replace them.

new g/f just got her endorsement so that she can more fully share this aspect of my life with me. that was entirely her choice. we pick up her new/used 2006 Shadow Spirit 1100 tomorrow. she rocks!  

[jetapumper]

I'll stop riding when she gives up her hair/nail appointments, masasages and chiropractor. Till then  

[sammyseaman]

If your SO really loves you she'll at least try to see it your way. My wife was typical big city girl. Never rode on the back of a motorcycle, thought hunting and guns were horrible and generally wasn't exposed much to those things (her first husband was a sense of entitlement, spoiled pansy-ass that would rather play WOW then treat his woman with respect but that is a story for another thread). Along came me and even though she doesn't eat wild game (yet) she understands hunting, gun ownership and really likes rides on the bike. If'n your SO has a problem with what you love and won't at least be open to the reason you do what you do they should be shown the door. Just my .02

[Desmo Demon]

Unless I was physically or mentally incapable of riding, the only thing that could probably get me to stop would be if I could afford a plane and to fly it as much as I can currently ride my bikes.

[satz]

Unlike most motorcycle are one of the things i enjoy .
so if given a damn good reason like i mess up and end up in hospitals jacked up regularly and we have a baby and toddler and she says take a few yrs off as they need there DAD .i might .

this question is quite a contradition in that you claim if she is love of your life so you assume she love only parts of your life and not whole...how can someone pick and choose what one loves in a person and then claim its the love of your life.Just saying i hated the vstrom even though i put 10k in a year and sold it in fall as the snow starter falling . We just got married a month ago. She hated the whole no bike period over holidays and everyone gave the whole we understand your wife made you do it look.She flipped out lol. anyway she dragged my lazy ass to a dealer and told me today you buy a bike in spring or else forget coming home 5 yrs ago.

Anyway , she just told me last month as we are adding a 2 car garage that i should think about adding a cruiser ,so she can also share it with me to ride /get a licence next year .we have a 8 month old and 4yr old. it goes both ways as i worry with little kids but i know she enjoyed it when she rode her virago for years . she would get a permit in spring and ride all summer. not sure why she never went to get a licence and kept doing this for years when she was younger.

[2RR2NV]

a new development for me as proof i have an awesome wife...  i sold my FJR back in Mar 2011 because of not riding much, not liking the roads, work, finances, new baby girls....  well, last month, my wife surprised me by searching for, setting up the deal, and driving me to the dealer to pick up my new bike!!!!    oh yeah, i must definitely do NOT have to worry about my Love asking me to sell.

[ChrisZRX]

The ex didn't like it.

I told her, 'I was riding before I met you, I was riding when we were dating, I was riding when we got married.  I'm not going to quit now."

I'm divorced, and still riding.  

[black hills]

I mentioned that perhaps I should sell my 300 as I never seem to get to ride anymore. My Brides reply: "What? are you retarded?? you love dirtbiking, quit acting like an idiot!"

"yes dear"

[dm_gsxr]

The funny thing is she didn't request I don't ride. Just that I don't take vacations without her. She's built up some resentment over the years as I go on my multi-week rides without her. A couple of years back I told her to make plans then, it's not like I get on the bike and don't come back for two weeks. I do lots of planning.

So last year we went to Prague for a week or so of touring and then we drove the Prius to Jasper/Banff to camp and stay in a youth hostel (fun, let me say).

This year I'm riding 8,000 miles and will meet her for four days in Florida on the beach before heading home.

So if she said "no more riding", we'd be over. If I see there's a problem (and I can be dense), I'll voluntarily give up some aspect in the interests of family harmony. I might even try to give it up (as long as I'm making the sacrifice), but I don't think it'll happen based on recent events

Carl

[mnofpeace]

I would compromise as best i could.  In the past i have told EVERY girlfriend at the time, who would give me this ultimatum about "if we are going to be serious, you will have to give up that motorcycle" that they had to go, right then, at that moment, and to take out the trash with them.

I ended up marrying that one woman who understood that motorcycling was a part of my life, and she accepted it, and me, as such.

However, if she had a change of heart about me riding, my compromise would be to give up street riding, but i surely would fight to continue my trackday riding.  She has been to the track with me, and knows that it is a safer environment than street riding.  And i would push that point as much as possible.

Giving up riding would be tough, and i wouldnt do it unless i was physically unable to.

[black hills]

if.... another friend died in a senseless accident....No, I'll still keep riding..

[county]

The "Suddenly, I am too old? WTF?" thread got me thinking about what I would give up for someone I loved. Me personally, I wouldn't give up a damn thing because the love of my life wants me too. One exeption would be if it was something destructive: Excessive drinking, drugs abuse, WOW, etc... Non of which I do by the way.
What say you?

I say it is easy to quit the things you don't do...